Tickle torture is a kink that sounds simple – who isn’t at least a little bit ticklish? Tickling is an act you can easily get Freudian with and think back on your childhood, another act that seemed innocent at the time, but manifests as an erotic pleasure later. There’s a certain allure to being unable to fight back against being tickled, but some people kink on it more than others. The psychology behind is a little different for everyone, but common themes are immobilization and over-stimulation. Some kinksters do not get satisfied by mere padded cuffs, and more extreme methods might be in order. People who enjoy tickle torture might also kink on being totally incapacitated by more extreme types of restraints, like straitjackets, while being tickled.
Although tickling someone might seem simple, like any prolonged type of activity, it’s difficult to maintain stimulation and interest. Here are a few tips on what works for a lady with a taste for tickling.
“Use under the bed restraints to hold her”
There are two major psychological elements that go into tickle torture as a kink: the actual physical sensation of tickling, but also the inability to control it. Therefore, when you’re dealing with a woman who enjoys being tickled to unbearable extremes, you need to figure out the restraints. The best way to go about this process is to discuss it beforehand, and ask her a few basic questions. One of the main variations in the type of restraint you use is going to be what level of immobilization she prefers. In other words, does she want to be able to squirm, or does she want to feel like she can’t move a muscle? This is an important and pertinent question for kinksters who get off on over-stimulation and loss of control, so figure it out. If she says she prefers to be completely restrained and unable to move, straitjackets are a great way to go.
Also bear in mind that tickle torture also doesn’t equate immediately to sexual desire. Ask her beforehand what she wants you to do during your play. For example, some women may want you to also engage in directly sexual acts while tickling them, while others may prefer to restrict the entire scene solely to tickling. It’s different for every person, so as always, discuss it beforehand. The BDSM scene is all about individual desires and finding partners that match.
“There are special instruments for tickle torture”
Now that you’ve got your ground rules set, you have to figure out how to keep her attention and interest. To start, don’t go overboard. The key to tickle torture is to work the recipient up into a state of hysteria, which includes psychological ploys – lots of stop and go – and different types of touch and texture. Match a material that will stimulate your partner with the lightest touch possible, such as a feather, and keep going until she’s laughing. Once you get her to the level of control loss, you can bring out the big guns, or in other words, your real tickle tools. Start with fingertips for a firmer touch, and when you’re ready for the final meltdown, one implement that works wonders is an electric toothbrush.