Being in a BDSM relationship is all about having fun, but it is about trust and respect as well. Without these factors, it is impossible to feel comfortable submitting to a Master with things like being tied up or gagged. All of these things are the foundation of a good relationship which can become love. This can be confusing for those who are only engaged in BDSM part time. The sensation of getting off with the help of pain or humiliation can blur the lines between being in a mutually beneficial relationship and one in which you are feeling love. Here is a way you can distinguish between just having fun and loving your Master.
Analyze the Way You Think about Your Master
If you are following the commands of your Master simply because he is your Master, that is one thing. If you are following the commands of your Master because you feel a deeper satisfaction out of making your Master happy, that is something else completely. If you find yourself thinking about your Master in ways which are closer to how you would think about a lover, you may actually be in love with your Master. This is nothing to be ashamed of. It happens all the time. The only time you need to be careful is if you and your Master agreed to never let the relationship go beyond just having fun.
Jealousy Can Be as a Slave or as a Lover
If your Master is doing something and you get jealous because you feel you should be the focus of attention as a slave, this is a normal feeling. However, if you notice you are getting jealous because your Master is paying attention to other things because you are not feeling accepted as a lover anymore, you may have crossed the line over to love. You may want to talk with your Master about the way you are feeling to see if the feeling is mutual. This is not something you can exactly reverse. If your Master is not ready to be in a relationship based on love, it may be time to let your Master go.
Meeting Each Other’s Friends and Family May Be a Sign
If you and your Master have started to make each other such a normal part of each other’s life you have started meeting respective friends and family, it is time to consider whether you are just having fun anymore. After all, when you step out of the dungeon and you are arm in arm, you are not just Master and servant any more. You are something more. Make sure you are ready for this kind of relationship. You do not have to maintain the Master and servant roles in every part of life. This is something which can be maintained behind closed doors, but you need to discuss it in order to know how to proceed. Remember not to be scared of love as it can actually strengthen your bond as Master and servant and serve to expand your boundaries of what you can do together.